The purpose of this blog is to pursue happiness together. My aim is to share my thoughts, thoughts which i have accumulated through the experience of highs and lows in my own life, and thoughts from famous philosophers, thinkers, and humanity at large. My hope is that we can begin a dialogue, and that through discussion of what happiness is, and how we find it, that we can learn to be happy together and to help make the world a better place.

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Hello all! Thanks for visiting my blog. I believe that creating and achieving a state of happiness and joy is the primary purpose in life. My mission for this page is to provide uplifting content, inspirational material, and thought provoking ideas; all of which I hope will help you come to a better understanding and experiencing of happiness and joy.

Monday, September 20, 2021

Happiness Thought for the Day (September 20, 2021): Happiness is a collection of small successes



“Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.” Vincent van Gogh

One of the most challenging aspects of self-improvement or of achieving our goals is that we set such lofty goals for ourselves but lack any plan to bring us closer step-by-step.

If your goals don’t seem a little bit crazy or frightening to you then maybe you aren’t being bold enough in your expectations and measurement of yourself.

No matter how lofty our goals, it is important that we create actionable steps to bring us from our present state to the realization of these goals.  

That is where the above quote by famed artist Vincent van Gogh comes in. Van Gogh didn’t just sit down one day and paint a masterpiece in a few hours. He likely thought for a very long time, perhaps even years, envisioning the painting in his head or searching for inspiration. Once he had the picture in his mind, he spent countless hours perfecting his work before it was complete. Those famous and great paintings he created were the result of many small painting sessions culminating in the work for which he is now renowned.

Have you ever had a goal that you thought would help you live a better and happier life? If you achieved that goal, how did you do it? My guess is you did it by working towards it over a prolonged period. One single day, observed independently, might appear to yield no progress. But when we combine those individual days of nearly indetectable progress, we recognize that we are well on our path towards fulfillment of our goals.

Step 1 is to create a goal. Step 2 is to create a timeline. Step 3 is to figure out what actions must be taken. Step 4 is implementing your plan.

Avoid being intimidated or discouraged by the distant and grand nature of our goals. Remain focused and committed to growth. Take small steps every day toward realizing whatever you want to achieve.

Sunday, September 19, 2021

Happiness Thought for the Day: September 19, 2021 - Embrace the new



"How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world." - Anne Frank

Sadly, the life of Anne Frank was cut short as a result of the Nazi Holocaust. Fortunately for all of us, she was a remarkable young woman with a keen mind and was able to leave us with the beautiful yet tragic story of her life in hiding with her family in Amsterdam during the 1940's. 

Her words and her actions are a reminder to us that while conditions may never be ideal, there is no better time than the present to make a difference in the world, whether by improving your own life or the lives of others. 

Take these words of Anne Frank to heart and understand that no deed, act, or thought to improve the world is too insignificant to matter. 

Friday, September 17, 2021

Happiness Thought of the Day: September 16, 2021 - You are not your job



 “You are not your job, you’re not how much money you have in the bank. You are not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet.” Chuck Palahniuk / Fight Club

I was having dinner and catching up with an old friend the other evening when something he said brought this quote from the book Fight Club to my mind, prompting me to share it for today's thought of the day. 

My friend was expressing that he was having extreme anxiety over his upcoming board exams, something upon which the future of his career in medicine depended on. This is an understandably important task. He has spent years studying and working to prepare himself for this moment. Who wouldn't have anxiety about such a situation. 

I told him I understood his concerns but assured him in two ways. 1) I told him that he was more prepared than he realized and to have faith in his own ability, dedication, and work ethic. 2) I told him that IF he failed, and I didn't think he would, that he wouldn't be a failure - because he is not his job. If for whatever reason he did fail I am sure that he would learn from his errors and come back to pass the next time. And if he didn't? Yea, he would be disappointed. But he would not be a failure, because there is more to him than what he does for a living, and there's more to you than that as well. 

Our culture has evolved to a point where we have learned to evaluate people on superficial qualities such as their job title, their net worth, their income, or other accolades. I cannot think of a worse way value an individual. We can all think of terrible human beings who have tons of money, impressive resumes, status, fame and more and we can think of great people who may struggle financially, work in seemingly unimpressive fields and more. What is more important than your job, your money in the bank, the car you drive, or the contents of your wallet? 

If you ask me, it is character, values, and integrity that define you. 

Wednesday, September 15, 2021

Happiness Thought of the Day: September 15, 2021



 "Everyone thinks of changing the world. No one thinks of changing himself." - Leo Tolstoy

Tolstoy isn't suggesting that we give up our hopes of ever changing the world or of leaving it a better place. The aim of everyone should be to put some sort of good into the world and to leave it a better place than we found it. 

What Tolstoy is suggesting is that we change our approach. This echoes one of the common themes we hear from Jordan Peterson, who suggests that when we are angry, maybe it isn't the world that has a problem, maybe it is us. 

Have you ever felt so angry about something that you wanted to scream? I felt that way many times last year. Between the Covid19 virus and people expressing different opinions about masks and vaccines, or the election where the divide between Left and Right seemed wider than ever. It was easy to feel frustration and anger at the situation at the world, and the perfect scape goat was someone with differing opinions. Seeing the state of the world and of my country I found myself seething with anger and rage directed at others and I wanted to badly to educate them to my views such that I could show them that I was right and they were wrong. 

This was entirely the wrong approach. The moment you have a discussion with those of differing views and tell them that you are right and they are wrong, you lose all potential for a meaningful discourse. This was a perfect time for me to better understand the message of Tolstoy above. I didn't need to change my views and I didn't need to change the world, I just needed to change myself, specifically with regards to being more tolerant of others. My hope is that by striving (very much imperfectly but striving nonetheless) I am changing the world by choosing how I think about others, a process that begins with a change within myself. 

There are other examples as well: you may be frustrated with the job market where it feels like all employers have it out for you; you may be angry at food companies for making such unhealthy yet delicious food that makes you sick; you may be unhappy in your dating life and feel that every guy or gal is an awful dating candidate and that they just don't get you. These are all examples of instances where people may wish to change the world but what they really ought to do is change themselves. If you can't get a job: learn new skills to make yourself a better hire or take the time to really work on your resume. If you can't seem to get healthy then take the time to exercise, and take the time to educate yourself on healthy eating choices. If you are having trouble dating, rather than railing against the dating pool, maybe you should either look in areas where there are people more likely to be attracted to you, or take a good hard look in the mirror and try to understand what it is about you that dates find repelling - maybe your general attitude and gloomy outlook are holding you back. \

If you want to see change in the world, be the change, and look within to see how improving yourself can improve the world. 

Tuesday, September 14, 2021

Happiness Thought for the Day: September 14,2021



 "Very often a change of self is needed more than a change of scene." - AC Benson


When I first read this quote it resonated with me because I recalled several different periods of my life where I thought that a change of scenery was the only thing holding me back from attaining happiness. My freshman year of college I found myself unhappy and struggling to make friends. Thus I constructed a narrative in my head that if I transferred schools I would be happy, not realizing that what was holding me back was not where I was, but rather my internal issues, namely my fear of vulnerability, and general shyness. If I had transferred schools, even to someplace where I already knew people, I would have been plagued with the same problems and missed the opportunity to grow. 

Another example from recent years was my belief that I would be happy if I moved to a foreign country, specifically one with more time for outdoor activities, beautiful scenery, and like minded people. What I was really unhappy about was the lack of any goals or meaning in my life, as I found myself constantly wasting my time indoors on social media or watching tv. There was nothing wrong with where I was, all of those things I wanted to do were right there in front of me. If I had moved to Europe or Australia I would have found myself every bit as lonely and depressed, perhaps even more. 

The point is that often in life we believe some sort of external change is needed because something about our environment is holding us back. In reality, what is holding us back are our own issues and our inability to recognize that the only barrier we have to success and happiness is our own mind and perspective. Think about the life you want to live, and the person you want to be, and ask yourself why you can't have exactly that wherever you are right now. 

Monday, September 13, 2021

Finding Happiness and Success by Turning Failures into Results


 


I was recently reading some of Tony Robbins’s work when he shared his thoughts on failure. This is a topic I have discussed many times over the past months as it seems to be a recurring theme in how we think of success and happiness.  Brene Brown tells us that we must give ourselves permission to fail or else we will never dare greatly. We will also learn that the only way we truly fail is if we never attempt anything in the first place. A failure is only truly a failure if we take nothing positive from the outcome, whether it was the outcome we wanted or not. This brings us to Tony Robbins’s thoughts on failure: “there is no such thing as failure, only results.”

Thomas Edison went through 10,000 different attempts before successfully creating the electric lightbulb. When asked about his 10,000 failures he famously replied: “I haven't failed, I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.” This mindset is how we must consider the results of our life if we wish to be successful and happy. If Edison had viewed his several thousand attempts as true failures, he likely would have quit his endeavors. Instead, he changed his mindset to recognize that he wasn’t failing but simply producing results that weren’t his desired outcome.

As part of his ideas on failure, Tony asked his readers to imagine our past in several instances where we thought we had failed and to describe the value of the lessons we learned. I have many failures I could easily use for such an exercise, but I chose 2 below to demonstrate some of the moments that hit me the hardest but how in posterity I realized those events were valuable learning opportunities.

“Failure” # 1: Getting Cut from the Middle School Soccer Team

Prior to 8th grade there were no tryouts for any of the rec or school teams I had played on. I enjoyed reasonable amounts of success being able to coast on nothing more than natural ability and the bare minimum of effort. As we grew older, the level of competition grew, and we were eventually required to attend try outs.

Not seeing my name on the list of students who had qualified was one of the most painful experiences of my life to that date. I was utterly dejected and spent the next 2 years playing no sports, feeling resentful and generally unhappy about myself. The negative belief I had was that I wasn’t good enough to play soccer and that was simply the card that I had been dealt. I was a poor athlete and there was nothing I could do to change that.

One day something clicked. I had been working for a few months with a trainer named Ousmane, who is to this day one of my greatest role models and sources of inspiration. Working with Ousmane showed me I had the power to change the outcome of my body, and more importantly my life. On this particular day I heard several of my friends who were on the team talking about their upcoming tryouts (I was now in 11th grade having not played for 3 years). I realized how much I missed the camaraderie of being on a team and the thrill of competition.

Tryouts were still several months out so I dedicated myself to training in the gym and on the field to prepare. I was motivated not by fear of being cut again but by the positive desire to belong to a team once again.

I made the cut, barely. I spent the next season riding the bench while my more experienced friends played on the field and even found myself practicing with junior varsity on occasion. Finally, early in my senior year, I won the opportunity to be a starter on defense where I believe I made myself a valuable contributor to our team.

The lesson I learned here is that failure isn’t final. Getting cut from the team didn’t make me a failure. It simply showed me that the result of not putting in effort and not being sufficiently motivated would be me not being able to participate as a member of the team.

“Failure” #2: Getting rejected from Graduate School

In winter of 2012 I found myself working a dead-end, soul-sucking job that I had stumbled into by pure luck and circumstance following my graduation from college the previous year. I felt that I had finally found the opportunity that would get me out of this awful job I loathed so much and finally get me the chance to get my life on track: a master’s program for Sports Medicine with a focus in Strength and Conditioning – something that aligned closely with my passion of sport, health, and exercise.

I still remember reading the response I got from the university. It began something like this: “Dear Mr. Kenreich, we regret to inform you…” I don’t know if I read the rest. I didn’t need to. It felt like getting cut from the soccer team all over. Once again, I labeled myself a failure and was convinced that I would always stay that way, unable to elevate my own existence and doomed to the hand life had dealt me.

Luckily, I had and still have a wise and loving mentor in the form of my father, who helped me look critically at my situation and develop a plan to deliver me the results I wanted. I started attending undergraduate classes to make myself more knowledgeable in my week areas. I started mentoring coaches who had successful training businesses so that I could learn the habits of people successful in my field, and I volunteered for dozens of hours a week at the research lab so that I could boost my field knowledge as well as make a favorable opinion on those who would control my fate upon reapplication.

In August of 2013, after 2 semesters worth of undergraduate coursework and untold hours trying to learn my way through the industry, I was accepted into the Sports Medicine Program. My dedication didn’t end there. I still remembered the pain of rejection from the previous winter,and used that as motivation to ensure that I gave my very best effort. I knew what happened when I did the minimum, from that day on I would do my very best, especially as I tried to keep up with my classmates, most of whom had more experience and deeper background in the sciences myself. That dedication ultimately got me the highest ranking in our class and opened the door to several job opportunities.

I didn’t fail to get into graduate school, I simply realized that to get in was a privilege and that I would have to work to earn that privilege, that my greatest effort was required to realize success.

 

Just as I did in the two examples provided above, you have probably found yourself experiencing some negative beliefs about yourself over events that seem like failures. In such instances I urge you not to adopt the belief that YOU are a failure, but that you have merely had an unfavorable result. Review what happened, analyze your preparation, consider other approaches. When we learn from our negative results we turn failure into a positive learning experience and thus are able to move forward, filling our lives with happiness and success.

Happiness Thought for the Day: September 13, 2021


 

"We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty." - Maya Angelou

Before a caterpillar can become a beautiful butterfly it must undergo a painful and challenging transformation as it morphs into a cocoon and finally emerges. 

Our transformation into the best versions of ourselves is similar. When we see others who are happy, successful, or living out their dreams, we simply see the final product and often fail to recognize the effort they put into their transformation. You can have the exact same thing, finding happiness and realizing your own version of success, but in order to get there you must be willing to put in the effort to transform, even when it is challenging. 

Sunday, September 12, 2021

In Memoriam: September 11, 2001 - 20 Years Later


 


This post is written in memorial to those who lost their lives on September 11, 2001, a date which yesterday we honored the 20th anniversary of that horrible day. I spent much of yesterday traveling for work and I wanted to make sure I had the opportunity to be patient and careful with my words, such that I could accurately convey my thoughts rather than rush to get a post out on a deadline. 

Everybody knows where they were that day, and if you are too young to remember, you've surely learned from those who were there what happened that day, and the last consequences therefrom which are still felt now. 

That day we witnessed terrible shock and awe just how cruel humans can be to one another. From that moment that showed us the very worst of humanity we saw the very best of humanity. In the wake of the violence, hatred, and terror, we saw some of the very best in humanity with countless tales of bravery, courage, heroism, and compassion as people the world over responded to the tragedy. 

On the anniversary of this tragic date we remember and honor the lives of those whom we lost in this horrible act of violence. We will never forget the tragedy and those who are no longer with us. What I will remember the most, and what I will carry with me is the acts of heroism that followed. Of how ordinary citizens rose up to help and to fight whether by joining hands and coming together as a community, donating blood, or enlisting in the military to fight terrorism. The overwhelmingly unity in our response, the courage of normal people, and the sense of love and community, that is what gives me faith that no matter how bad things get, and how evil humans can be, our greatest qualities will always shine through. That is what I will remember when I remember September 11, 2001. 


Friday, September 10, 2021

Happiness Thought for the Day: September 10, 2021


 

"If it's important, you'll find a way. If it's not, you'll find an excuse." 

I first heard this quote as a teenager from one of my youth sports coaches. At the time I thought it was his own idea but as I've grown older I realize that this thought has been around for sometime, and that the origin or initial author of the quote is unknown, so we will attribute it as anonymous. 

Whomever spoke it is irrelevant. The fact is that this is important advice. This isn't an attack on anyone. We all have moments where for various reasons we are unable to keep a date, to make time for something we wanted to do, or to spend time working on something valuable to us. This isn't an invalidation of excuses. Real life happens and there honestly are many valid excuses. A different coach of mine was fond of saying: "excuses are for losers." This was one of the few instances where I disagreed with him. I don't think he genuinely thought that excuses were for losers, but rather wanted to iterate the point that if something is important, you must find a way. 

Conditions may never be ideal. There will always be an excuse. At worst, allow whatever valid excuse stands in your way to be a minor delay rather than a block to achieving your goals. Do not let an excuse, no matter how valid, be a permanent impediment to what you hope to achieve. There will always be something that can stand in your way. It is up to you to find a way around this. 

I believe we can all do this. Do not feel shame if you experience the occasional or even frequent setback. What matters most is your effort, your direction, and your refusal to quit. 

Thursday, September 9, 2021

Health is a Privilege not a Grind


 

Stop calling your workouts "the grind", this is a privilege. One of my greatest pet peeves is people, particularly in the fitness industry, who refer to their workouts as a grind. This type of comment is most commonly made by people throwing around weight in the gym, trying to draw attention to their work ethic or physical prowess. I get it, there are some days where the last thing we want to do is get off the couch and go subject ourselves to a challenging and strenuous workout. 

To achieve meaningful and powerful results of health in the gym does require a certain degree of discipline which often involves forcing yourself to do it even when you aren't in the mood. Keep in mind though that health, the ability to move our bodies, and the enjoyment of activity is a privilege that many are unable to enjoy. I know that the referral of a workout as a grind is intended as a motivational tactic but I think this approach misses the mark. Rather than thinking of it as a grind that we must compel ourselves to endure, remind ourselves that health, activity, and fitness are a privilege and that there are those who would gladly give anything for the opportunity to do what the rest of us enjoy. Remind yourself that this is a privilege because fitness and health precede happiness and lead us on the road to greater fulfillment. Adopt this more positive mindset rather than think of yourself as constantly at battle with yourself or against the circumstances of your being. 

Happiness Thought for the Day: September 9, 2021


 

"Love is the passport to abiding joy and peace and freedom." -Anthony de Mello.

What good is a life if it is lived without love. Love is the ultimate aim for which we strive. Love others deeply and with all your heart, but first and foremost love yourself. If you do not love yourself you cannot and will not be able to fully love others. Begin with an inward focus towards loving and accepting yourself, towards cultivating your own happiness. Then you may turn that outward and put forth your love and joy into the world. 

Monday, September 6, 2021

Happiness Thought for the Day: September 6, 2021



"There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” - Paulo Coelho

I put the Alchemist in the "Favorite Books" section of my blog almost immediately after having finished it for the second time several months ago. Paulo Coelho is perhaps the greatest author alive today when it comes to speaking to the heart about finding the courage to pursue our dreams and higher calling. 

In reviewing my notes on that book I came across the quote that I am sharing for today's thought of the day as it ties in with the notion of failure that I have spoken of several times already in the past few weeks. 

People often use the fear of failure as their primary motive for inaction. I will reiterate past discussions and say that the only way we truly fail is when we do not even make an attempt. The only failure is inaction. We often let our fear of failure prevent us from taking action because we are afraid that the failure will make us vulnerable, that it will allow the world to see us as we truly are - which is imperfect. 

I will tie this idea of imperfection as well back to previous posts where we discussed that we must embrace imperfection because imperfection is the only reality. Perfection does not exist, it is merely an illusion or an abstract idea that we have allowed ourselves to be convinced is real. It isn't. The sooner you can embrace your own imperfection, and the sooner you can face vulnerability, then the sooner you can conquer your fear of failure, and the sooner you can realize your dream. 


 

Saturday, September 4, 2021

3 Lessons on Life and Happiness I Learned from Watching "Up"


 


After 12 years of living under a rock I finally allowed myself to watch the movie Up last night. This was a recommendation from my girlfriend who, not for the first time, hit it out of the park with yet another A+ movie selection. It is fitting that I should watch this highly acclaimed movie now, so recently after the death of Ed Asner, the voice of Mr. Carl Fredricksen, who passed away just several days ago on August 29, 2021. I am glad I finally had the opportunity to watch this film and to share it with someone special. If you haven’t seen Up, which by now most of you probably have, I highly recommend it. If you have watched it, watch it again. Not only does it provide 90 minutes of laughter, emotions both high and low, and entertainment, but I believe it contains some valuable commentary on life and human psychology, not uncommon for the folks at Pixar studios.

My post today is on the 3 most important things I learned from the movie “Up” (Spoilers ahead – obviously).

Lesson 1: The real adventure is the everyday.

A large theme in the plot of the film is Mr. Carl Fredricksen’s determination to move to paradise falls, bringing his house with him, fulfilling the life long dream that he and his late wife Ellie shared together for so long. Carl is almost singularly focused on achieving this dream, believing that he owes it to both Ellie and himself to make this dream become a reality. At times his focus on this goal comes at the detriment of others such as Russell or Kevin the bird.

One of the most pivotal moments of the movie comes when Carl sits down in his favorite chair, next to the now empty seat that was so often occupied by the now deceased Ellie, and opens up the adventure book. The adventure book was something that Carl and Ellie had put together since meeting as children and bonding over their shared love of adventure and their dream of one day moving to the legendary Paradise Falls.


After flipping through several pages worth of material that young Carl and Young Ellie had put together, Carl comes across a section he had never seen before, that being “Stuff I am going to do.” Carl flips forward to find the pages plastered with various images of Carl and Ellie, clearly in love and happy together, sharing simple pleasures like a picnic in the park, or a car ride together. The last photo is presumably the last photo the two took together before Ellie’s passing, showing a much older Carl and Ellie than the opening pages of the book, but perhaps happier together and more in love than ever before. The last entry into the book is a passage saying “Thanks for the adventure – now go have a new one! Love, Ellie.”

At this point I found myself with visible tears running down my cheek, not for the first time, being so struck by the beauty and emotion. The significance of this moment was profound not only for Carl but also by myself, and presumably others. What I took away from this: Carl and Ellie had dreamed of getting to Paradise Falls for their whole lives. That Ellie had passed before they were able to achieve this goal made Carl feel unhappy and guilty, and presumably must have felt a sense of sorrow for Ellie, perceiving her to be unhappy for not having lived to see their dream come true. This scene erases that feeling and opens Carl’s eyes to the fact that he and Ellie did in fact live a long and fulfilling life together and that they were happy all along.

This uplifting moment marked a pivotal change for Carl Fredricksen and should provide an equally powerful reminder to the audience that happiness, the real adventure of life, lies in the everyday. Carl was obsessed with having his great adventure with Ellie, only to realize that he did have that adventure, he got to spend most of his life with her. Who could ask for something more adventurous, more fulfilling, or happier than that?

Like most of you, I too have some dream vacations and adventures that I want to fulfill. Be mindful that these may never happen, such is the nature of dreams. If they don’t happen, remember that these moments aren’t what make your life happy, or provide real meaning, they are just a little extra moment of extreme excitement. If they do happen, remember to make your everyday count, not just those few moments of bliss.

Lesson 2: The boring stuff is the important stuff

This is paraphrased and based off what I think is the most important line spoken by Russell, the young boy who unwittingly finds himself flying south with Mr. Fredricksen. Speaking of the few fond memories he has with his now absentee father, Russell says: “the boring stuff is what I remember most.”

This idea ties in closely with lesson 1 from above. 99% of life is going to be boring stuff. Most of us will spend very little time, if any, doing anything truly epic, adventurous, exotic, or exciting. Even those who seem fortunate to enjoy a life of extreme excitement or adventure often find themselves horribly depressed with all of the activity being a mere distraction, or live lives such as they are unable to enjoy the simple pleasures in life, always searching for the next rush (sadly, many such people become abusers of drugs and alcohol.)

Rather than living our lives for that 1% of abnormal excitement and adventure, we can make our lives and find our happiness in the 99%, in the “boring” as Russell would say it. The 99% is where real life takes place. This is where we spend most of our time. As such, it is in our best interest to stop pining for that 1% where we may feel truly alive, and instead find happiness and love in the boring moments.

Lesson 3: Living in the past prevents happiness in the present

This will be a short section as most of what needs to be said on this matter has already been said. We see the best version of Mr. Fredricksen come to screen after reading the aforementioned passage from Ellie, urging him to go make a new adventure. From that point on we see a reinvigorated and more upbeat Carl. Carl seems full of courage and enthusiasm for life for the first time since Ellie’s death in the opening scenes. Carl helps rescue Kevin and Russell, befriends Doug, and allows himself to once again be happy and enjoy life.

The lesson this provides is that Carl’s failure to move on from the death of Ellie and their unfulfilled dream of reaching Paradise Falls was preventing him from happiness. Death is a tragedy, make no mistake about it. I know firsthand as do all of us that the death of a close relative, friend, or loved one, is one of the most devastating moments we deal with in our lives. It is also the most inevitable moment, and for that reason we should not allow death, nor any other misfortune of our past prevent us from realizing joy and happiness in the future. Don’t let death, or anything else from your past hold you back. Cherish the good and happy moments in your personal history, but do not live in the past. No amount of guilt, shame, pain, or denial will be able to change the past. All we can do is make peace with it and move forward.

 

             

 

Happiness Thought for the Day: September 4, 2021







“Turns out, resentment is corrosive, and I hate it.” Tony Stark / Iron Man

When Tony Stark spoke those words to Captain America the two had been cursing for several years each one placing blame on the other for their collective failure to stop Thanos from destroying half of all life in the universe. 

At long last Tony took the first step towards reconciliation. This moment teaches us the power of forgiveness. Anger and resentment ultimately harms nobody except the person who harbors those feelings, making them a corrosive force as Tony says. 

Holding on to such feelings keeps us living in the past which can lead to depression and it prevents us from moving forward and enjoying a happier present and future. 

I Life is too short to live in resentment. It prohibits us from enjoying happiness with those who could and should be our friends and family. Explore what resentment you may be bearing and figure out a way to forgive. You owe it to yourself. 

Friday, September 3, 2021

Happiness Thought for the Day: September 3, 2021 pt 2


"No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.” -Tony Robbins
This ties in to a recent post about fear of failure, and how the only real way to fail is to not try at all. Even the act of thinking about making a change, pursuing happiness, or chasing your dreams is a form of progress.
This thought reminds me of the often discussed idea that comparison to others is the root of unhappiness, something I read while reading about Buddhism and the Dalai Lama. The same concept applies here, because if you judge your progress as slow or believe you are making mistakes when you compare your path to others, you will be unhappy. Don't let the speed of your progress or any bumps in the road stop you from trying. Find a goal worth pursuing and pursue it. Learn from the mistakes, and focus on your direction rather than your speed.


Happiness Thought for the Day: September 3, 2021



 "If you don't make time for your wellness you will be forced to take time for your illness." - Anonymous

I am going to attribute this quote as anonymous because it has been said thousands of times in dozens of ways and ultimately it is insignificant who spoke it first. 

The important part is the truth in the statement. I speak often about the importance of physical health to promoting wellness and happiness. Too often we hear people say that they simply don't have time to care for their wellness, as such they let it slide. I get it, life is hectic and busy, and sometimes the idea of having to go do a workout for 30 minutes sounds like the last thing in the world you want to do, especially if there is a soft sofa and a pantry food of comfort food calling your name after a hard day of work. 

Trust me, your wellness must be a priority for your healthy and happiness. Wellness is more than exercising. Wellness is meditating or journaling to improve mental health. Wellness is stretching, walking, drinking water, getting enough sleep, and eating nutritious foods. Wellness is reading a book, getting enough sunlight, and taking time to destress. 

Maybe you don't have time for all of the above but you must make time to prioritize some aspects of your wellness. If you do not, you will become sick, and life will make the decision for you that you will have to care for your illness. The best way to prevent illness is to preemptively fight it by focusing on your wellness. 

Thursday, September 2, 2021

Happiness Thought for the Day: September 2, 2021



"The more one forgets himself—by giving himself to a cause to serve or another person to love—the more human he is and the more he actualizes himself." - Dr. Viktor Frankl

Man's Search for Meaning is quote possible one of the most inspiring books you will ever read. The book is an autobiographical account from Viktor Frankl who was already an accomplished neuropsychologist when he was imprisoned in the Auschwitz concentration camp by the Nazi's during the 1940's. 

This inspiring book is Dr. Frankl's account of not only his experiences but more importantly of how he and others were able to survive the inexplicable horrors of life as Jewish people during the holocaust, by finding purpose and meaning in their lives, and thereby became able to endure even this unforgiving environment. 

I have long since included this book in my "Favorite Books" section and have referenced it many times throughout my blog. 

I use this particular quote from above as it is perhaps the most condensed advice I can convey from Dr. Frankl on how to find purpose, meaning, and happiness. Give yourself wholly to a cause worth fighting for or to a person worth dying for. Find someone or something you love and pour yourself wholeheartedly into the nurturement, growth, and care for that idea or person. To care for and love another is the greatest cause to which one can commit their life. 

Identify that cause or that person that lights your soul on fire and to which you are willing to dedicate your life's purpose and in which you find your life's meaning. 


Wednesday, September 1, 2021

Happiness Thought for the Day: September 1, 2021




"When failure is not an option we can learn about learning, creativity, and innovation." - Brene Brown

Dr. Brene Brown is one of the world's most popular authors and speakers, earning great fame and recognition in particular for her work on vulnerability and courage. 

This quotation describes the need to consider that failure is an option. Failure has to be considered a viable option because when it isn't we believe when we fail that we ourselves are a failure. This is not the case. Failure is not only necessary it is inevitable. 

The only way to truly avoid failure is to never try, but in my opinion to never try at all is the greatest definition of failure. Do not be afraid to fail. Be bold, dare greatly, and put yourself out there. If you fail in your attempts to achieve happiness, success, or whatever your goals are, learn from that experience and then try again. Failure is not permanent, it is just another step along the way.